the opening of the heart

One of the most effective and simple to fallow form of meditation is called “the opening of the heart”. This meditation can help reduce stress and elevate your well being.

This meditation refers to the heart chakra rather than the physical heart; although both are in the same location of the body they have different function and structure.

Chakra is the Sanskrit name for a wheal or a gate, these wheals have different functions, and one of them is the processing of emotions and the distribution of their energy throughout the body.

The chakras can be in an open or a closed cycle, when the chakras are open we are healthy and well balanced, but unless you lead a very healthy and relaxed life style, it is  most likely that your chakras, are opening and closing, according to the events in your life and the way you relate to them on the emotional level.

The heart is all love, love is the most light and healthy emotion we have, when the heart chakra is open we feel like we are in love. Not many of us however, walk around with the feeling of “in love”. Most of us walk around with our heart slightly closed or completely closed.

Amongst the functions of the heart chakra, is the function of purification. just as a loving friend can make you feel better, by expressing their loving emotions and support when you need it,  the heart chakra is able to purify  unhealthy emotions from the other chakras.

I can understand how some of you may have doubts about the accuracy of that which is described above; ask yourself this... what in our body holds our emotions? Can all emotions be held in the same place? If so how come we all ‘hold tension in different parts of our body? What does it mean to hold tension?

Please take the time to digest the above, I will post the meditation if a few days.

What Is Meditation

What is meditation?

Sum years ago. when the western world began exploring more of what the east had to offer. I, like many of the people around me, was fascinated by it, yet I knew nothing of it. That did not stop me though, from clamming to be one who meditated, my only reason being, my need to be groove.

Ironically enough some years later I am turning more and more into a yogi... looking for more ways to find that inner peace and bliss. And most importantly discovering more and more what it is I want to do in life.

       There is no doubt in my mind, that some of you are just as confused about meditation, as I was then. Even though there are endless books about meditation, they do not give you anything even remotely close, to the understanding of meditation as you would understand it once you felt it firsthand.  

  The benefits of meditation can hardly be described in words and when they are, the words only give you an overview of something you can not relate too. Just as one who never had wild love making and I mean Wild LOVE making, will never be able to relate to such an action, regardless to the number of closely related experiences.

There are many different kind of meditation, as it can be used in order to find a solution to a problem or in order to choose your next step carefully. The other way in which meditation is used, is the kind which all who wants to be groove and in the new age categories, are using it.

But the real reason to practice meditation is personal, through meditation you can better understand the meaning of life, the gift that it is... you will understand that all the prove you have ever needed of the existence of something greater and more powerful than any religious figure or scientist could ever sale to you, can be found simply by turning inward.

What does it mean to turn inward?

Our senses that connect us to the world around us are doing just that turning us into the world around us. Turning inward will mean that we will direct our senses to tell us more about our own self, which is why we close our eyes, so that the images we see will not distract us from the act of meditation.

Ironically the very senses which make us human are the very senses which can make us forget what life is all about, but this is where we acutely, really have a choice, we can choose to use our senses and learn more about the meaning of life, or we can choose to use our senses to become what the outside world wants us to be.  

A free guided meditation will be soon posted on this blog        

why does positive thinking fail part two

I have posted some month ago a post titled "why does positive thinking fail", a lady named Kelly had posted a comment, since the comment and the name are there for all to read, I see no harm in quoting her here. Kelly comment was:

"most people try to think positive while ignoring their life long iceberg of collecting negative evidence. "positive thinking" will then be just sugar coating - ain't gonna full anyone especially your own mind. gotta get the root of the problem, release start fresh, much easier and more effective."

Kelly has made few interesting points one is sugar coating, I call it denial. positive thinking is not about lying to yourself by telling yourself that the problem is not really there.a problem will not go away just by thinking that it is not there or that its really not that bad, she is right there, nothing good will happen. in fact the situation  may even develop into a bigger problem while the individual involved is unprepared to face it for what it is, not a good place to be...

how ever, the root of the problem in many ways come form the mind, so when one like Kelly say just release and start again... well it is a sugar coting of a different kind.

life will always bring challenge about, it is the nature of life, for we have no control on the action of other people and the affect of their action on our lives, just as the weather can bring about all kind of discomfort and just as disease will jump on one out of no where. .   challenges are there to overcome in the best possible way which mean you have learned from the situation and moved on form it as it happened, not some years later after mush lamentation tears and despair.

If you "put it behind you" and start again by simply forgetting what has happened, soon enough a situation will come which will bring about the same problem in a different outfit. you will again and again come across the same situation unless you learn what it is you need to learn form it.

when one has a positive mind, one will surly find the solution to the problem, this will bring about a positive outcome and growth,  it will bring about a healthy change.

now days we have many forms of energy healing, I have studied energy healing for some four years and have practice in a clinic. one can release an iceberg and move on, this is true, however, releasing old emotions and "negative evidence" does not guarantee, that the habit of collecting 'negative evidence' will not create a new iceberg, by the time one will realise that he created a new iceberg, one might be a little less energetic and a little older, starting again without the training of the mind will not help...

I have written before about the difference between the training of the mind to be positive and denial, but for those of you who didn't get to read it I will write a new post on the subject so please look for it.

please feel free to comment, I will respond, I am working on other books and an art exhibition so I haven't been posting on the blog, but I will make more of an effort to check in more often

warm regards

Lilach Tzingoker                        


Positive Thinking with Lilach Tzingoker, Author of Sonny’s Adventure in Mystery Park

positive thinking in every day life

The truth about positive thinking/ positive thinking in everyday life   

Teaching the mind to be positive could be compared with the learning of a musical instrument.  We need to start at the basics; first we need to know who we are dealing with, if the mind can be trained to work in a positive way we might want to ask; who is training the mind?  What else is there? The body, the emotions, the mind and what else? But who is it, that is going to teach the mind to think in a positive way? You.... who is you?

So whether you believe in a soul or an observer or a conscious and subconscious mind, you need to find that something /someone first and allow it to surface up, allow it to be alive and heard. Allow it to be stronger then the mind who is negative... you have to find a strength in that part of you... ask yourself just how much you want a better you? What are you willing to do for it? How hard will you work to achieve it?        

Then, the  next time you come to that same situation, which drive you crazy on a regular basis, stop, do not react.  This action alone, to stop before your pre-programmed respond unfolds once more, require a strength of mind!
You need to find that strength through the wanting of a better life. Once you find yourself doing that, ask:  what is really happening in my mind, and what emotion does it bring upon? Could you respond in a different way?  Keep your usual respond to the situation at bay? Can you bring yourself to be the bigger person?  

Here is a story form my life that may help to better illustrate the above:

On a day, like any other day, I have made my way to the backpacker I was staying in, on a cloth rack which was stationed outside a shop, was a skirt made out of a fabric which I have found most desirable. I was not in a good place in life at the time and had to find excuses to why I should spend money... I told myself that I work very hard and there for I deserve it. Soon I was in the shop and placed the skirt on lay by without trying it on. I felt good, I felt really good. And so a week later I went by the shop to pay the balance and pick the skirt up. While the shop keeper was finalising the balance, I had a closer look at what I was buying and found, that the zip was faulty. I showed it to the shop keeper, she tried to fix it, and it seemed that she did. Still I wasn’t all that happy to take the skirt. Trying to close a sale, the shop keeper said that if I have found the problem to reoccur, I could bring the skirt back, no questions asked. She wrote a note on the receipt, of our agreement and signed her name. It so happened that the zip was indeed faulty.  Next day, while at work, I have prepared an argument just in case I was to find a different shop keeper.

When I got to the shop I have found that what I feared to happen happened, at the counter was a different shop keeper who did not want to take my word for it, nor did she want to make a phone call to the owner or the person who wrote the note on the receipt.

Now, I am a strong woman... not the kind to back down, I get what I want and it is the only way things were going to unfold. I was going to walk with the money in my hand and nothing else was going to do. And so I got the shop keeper to call one of the two people until she actually got through (the first and second time she said the phone was engaged) and so she was instructed to give me full refund. The shop keeper did not like that she was proven wrong, she carried on with the argument even thought she put the money in my hand. Soon out of nowhere another lady who was a regular in the shop jumped in to the aid of the shop keeper, soon race and color was the topic and the shop keeper could not resist and called one of the classics “why don’t you go back to your country?”

 Back in my room, all fired up with the blood running hot in my veins, I questioned the way I have handled the situation, could I have done things differently? The answer is yes, I could have, I could have resisted the impulse to show the two women that I was much stronger, I could have prepared a positive argument in my head instead of the one I did. I could have walked out of the shop with money smile and one less enemy.

So what am I trying to say? You want to positive your way to richness to success to happiness? Do it, but it is not as easy as making a wish in a time in space where dream comes true, you first have to be able to control the way in which you handle your everyday life, while driving your car, while shopping, while you are out drinking, while you have to take orders from others... master that,,, master control over your need to prove who you are no matter what... your need to read of false ego you need to find who is it that is going to teach the mind how to think.

many have a busy mind, so busy it may seem like few minds are all at work in one head. there are two main categories,  there is the mind that is controlled by the senses, there is another mind who knows more than you think, it has wisdom and reason which will surprise you again and again. the last mind is the one which will help you find a more positive you,  to find that mind and make it strong meditation is recommended , it will in return make you happy, it is that silent observer who need to be heard.    You do that and you are on your way to a better happier you.