Why does positive thinking fail?
Searching the Internet for new information about positive thinking, I have come across the above title, nothing else was added, that was it, just a title. While considering answering the question myself, I kept on surfing the net for similar topics. I found one article that claimed, amongst other thing, that according to some studies, women who were mildly depressed are more likely to live longer, simply because, they are less likely to live life with activities, which could lead to their early death(?!). The writer of the article went on and on about the bad outcome of positive thinking.
My first respond is: ‘well there is one example for why positive thinking fails’, my next respond is: what do we try to achieve? Are we looking for a never ending life of miseries? Or are we looking for a happy life, well lived life? From observation I find that we, humans, look for different ways to better our lives. Yes we have different interpretation for what happiness means, but if you are walking down the street, healthy with a big smile on your face what else matters? This is a place we all want to be and I call it HAPPY LAND.
So why does positive thinking fail?
Each and every one of us has a relationship with oneself. It is the nature of that affiliation which determine ones happiness. If you love yourself you will give yourself only the things that make you happy. Those who don’t love themselves will give everything else and everyone else first priority, and there for be unhappy. This relationship starts in the mind. A negative Patten of thoughts will create an unhealthy relation with oneself. And that is why we want to have a positive mind.
The word relationship is defined by the Macquarie Dictionary as a connection. For as long as we are alive, we have a connection with/to ourselves. One must ask; what is the nature of that connection? Since we cannot stop the relationship with our own self, we must maintain it for the length of our physical life. The mind as a part of the self, is where much of the connection is maid, there for the Patten of the mind is where happiness starts and end. If you are trying to change the Patten of your mind to a more positive one do it first for the sake of happiness and the rest will fallow. But just as you can’t stop having a connection with yourself, you can’t stop the training of your mind. It’s like blaming the dietitian for gaining all the weight again, after stoping the diet he prescribed. its worth considering that ones life style is where the problem stars and end.
Positive thinking will fail if you give up before you get to the finish line.
